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olivia necchi

maneuvering through difficult times is alot like driving through a dense fog. you cant always see where you going, you feel a little lost, you want to turn back, and ever mile feels like forever, yet scared or fatigued as I might be there's nothing I can do about my husband taking his life, he died. my family has been dealing with his lost for 16 years and every day I breathe, focus on my son that is on SSI because he can't deal with his dad death. So please think twice when you type other people can cause people to take there own lives.we died each day. they died once.


Wonderful writing Debra. Thank you for sharing.


Kristy, I would like to suggest to you that you research suicide and maybe a few books that describe the suicide 'trance'. I would also like to remind you that you are posting on a site specifically for survivors of suicide, many whom are experiencing significant guilt and trauma from the death of their loved one. Perhaps you have a personal experience that you are feeling responsible for that needs to be resolved? Either way, I believe that your comment is disrespectful and potentially harmful to others who are working through their grief. I am sure that there are more appropriate places to share your insight.


Debra, thanks for sharing. Part of my issue with depression is my desire to not seek help. I get locked into my own misery - and if fear this is probably pretty dangerous. Much the same way, I felt the telltale signs of "Feelings of guilt, worthlessness or helplessness" (telltale sign: http://www.brookhavenhospital.com/depression-treatment/). For me, the fact that waking up from what little sleep I could get was actually painful. Luckily there was that voice (and other writers like you) that helped me not feel alone, or, more importantly, there was a light at the end of the tunnel. Take care and thanks!


Other people say and do the darndest and at times most hurtful things. That is reality. Depression cannot be put in a box it is too big,it just won't fit, there are varying degrees and I don't believe as a society we understand it very well. I think we get understanding from the experiences shared here and I feel honored to know Debra's story. The act of suicide is an act made alone. No one else should claim responsibility for the act.


Im sure this feeling was horrible but I still feel that people who are depressed can be forced or pushed into suicide by other peoples actions.

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