From our forum: "This is the text of a handout given to me on Friday by the Hospice Grief counselor who runs the Survivors of Suicide Group. I found it very helpful, both to email to friends, and to let me know what I can expect. I'm 3 weeks into this painful journey, and it's very hard."
To My Friends and Family:
My grief process will take much longer than you want it to.
You can't fix this for me by doing anything but you can just be there for me.
I will be in a sort of fog for at least 3 months. When the fog lifts, I might get worse.
I will have periods of doing okay, then I will feel despair again.
I will be exhausted. Grief is hard work.
My desire, creativity, and motivation will be gone for quite awhile.
My ability to experience joy may also be absent.
I will have a range of emotions from irritability to inexplicable rage and it may be targeted at you. Please forgive me.
I am vulnerable, I feel brittle, and I do not feel resilient.
I can't take too much stimulation. I probably won't'feel like being sociable.
I know you miss the old me, but I'm forever changed by the loss of my loved one.
It will feel as though I haven't made any progress. However, I am slowly healing with occasional normal setbacks.
I will heal. Please be patient, loving, and understanding.