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I love you mom. So eloquent. Miss you bro.

Joan Kaneshiro

Dear Mom,

I am so very sorry for your incomprehensible loss. I am glad you were there when Nick left, securely held in your arms - that, in and of itself was a gift. When my brother went to be with Jesus, 30 minutes after we were on the phone, I never saw him again.


Joanne Mayhew

Thank you for your kind words....I am just now seeing your comment. Saying sorry for your loss is just not enough to say to the survivor(s)of a suicide. But I am very sorry that it has happened to you, too. I don't know if you will ever see this....I hope you do. Send a message to me, I would really like to hear your story.

Drew McCollum

Dear Mrs. Mayhew;

I am so sorry for your loss. I was behind you today as I was going through traffic in Indian Trail. I read your rememberence on your car and thought to look up your son. I told my son Caden that we would hug you if we were to end up at the same place. Unfortunately, you turned left and I turned right. Our family understands loss and suicide as it has blessed our family several times. My wife and I wear the semi colon to reach out and talk to anyone, to help, and to love. I understand the weight that it carries when you lose someone and we are praying for you and the rest of the Mathew family. I wish we could have given you that hug. Please know we are thinking of you.

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I may have lost my brother, my sister, my parent, my child, my friend, my spouse, my partner ... but I am alive.   I am a survivor of the dark night of unspeakable loss, of my own darkness and ... I am alive.

I am unwilling to stand idly by and allow shame to defeat love or silence to defeat action.  I stand for the enlightenment of a society that would hide from suicide ... and I am alive.

I am unwilling for my perseverance to be in vain.Unwilling for the passing of my loved one to be in shame. I loved them more than I loved myself and their life will have meaning in my action.  I am alive.

In a world blinded by the pursuit of pleasure, I am here to say that people are in pain. In a world rushing to get ahead, I am here to say that people are being left behind.In a world obsessed with the value of the market, I am here to speak for the value of life ... and I'm alive

This will be no quiet fight. I am the voice of audacity in the face of apathy. I am the spirit of bravery in a world of caution. I am a commitment of action in the face of neutrality.

I am into the light and I am alive."

Dan Pallotta at the Out of the Darkness Suicide Awareness Walk in DC, 2002

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I will carry you with me ...

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 Memorial Tattoos

"I'll cry with you,"
she whispered
"until we run out of tears.
Even if it's forever.
We'll do it together."

There it was . . . a simple
promise of connection.

The loving alliance of
grief and hope that
blesses both our breaking
apart and our coming
together again.

Molly Fumia, Safe Passage